Category Archives: How to Win Friends and Influence People

Don’t just tell me, show me

“A Picture paints a thousand words.” (Fredrick R. Barnard) Many of you, like me, probably have a DVR or Digital Video Recorder. My wife and I rarely watch TV live, opting usually to record our favorite shows so we can … Continue reading

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Appealing to the nobler motives

“The moment there is suspicion about a person’s motives, everything he does becomes tainted.” (Mahatma Gandhi) There are really not that many villains in the world. There are few people who sit wringing their hands and uttering a maniacal laugh … Continue reading

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Treat the other person as though you know their heart is breaking

“Three-fourths of the people you will ever meet are hungering and thirsting for sympathy. Give it to them, and they will love you.” (Dale Carnegie) Sympathy. That word comes to us from the Greek roots syn (together), and pathos (feeling) … Continue reading

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A change in perspective to move two parties closer together

“I’m you…” (Fictional Detective Lt. Everett Backstrom) There is a detective show that has come on to US television this winter called Backstrom. It is about a quirky, eccentric detective in Portland, Oregon, who heads up a special crime unit. … Continue reading

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When my idea, and your idea are the same, then we have each won the other to our way of thinking

“It’s amazing what we can get done when it doesn’t matter who gets the credit” (A Former Director where I work) About 13 years ago I was asked to join a new team at work. It was a team that … Continue reading

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Two ears, one mouth. Let that simple math guide you

“If you make listening and observation your occupation you will gain much more than you can by talk.” (Robert Baden-Powell) Some years ago I was a teacher of Religious Education at my Church. Every Monday night, for 90 minutes, I … Continue reading

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Preparation is the key to finding agreement

“It’s easy to find reasons for division between people; finding common ground is harder, but a step towards happiness.” (Unknown) I will admit to you that this next principle sometimes gives me fits. It isn’t that I am unclear on … Continue reading

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Taking a lesson from President Lincoln

“A drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall.” (Abraham Lincoln) I will admit, I have used this quote before but never really checked what the definition of “gall” was in this context before writing this piece. … Continue reading

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Admitting our errors in matters large and small

“Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.” (Bruce Lee) I am a sports fan. There are quite a lot of American Sports that have held my interest over the years. The highest among them has … Continue reading

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Taking a lesson from a very old “dad joke”

“I’ve only been wrong once in my life, and then it turned out I was mistaken.” (My Dad) Those who have been longtime readers of my blog know that my dad died when I was only six years old from … Continue reading

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